Signature...

Today makes two weeks since we said "I Do", and I have been practicing my new signature because it feels so foreign to me. Just twelve years ago I had to learn to use my dad's surname because most of my childhood I carried my mother's. It feels bittersweet. A big part of me wants to hyphen my name so that I never lose my dad's name but the other wants to embrace this new person I am fully.

For me the hardest part is that I loved the distinction I felt with my dad's surname. My hubby's name is a regular surname and even though I love it- I love my family name more. I think another hard part is that for so long I made a name for myself as a single person. Whoever knows me knows I am a "R----" and proud of it. I have so many awards for civil, church, community and other activities in that name. Now I have to in a way start over as a new person.

My hubby doesn't get my issues- because he has never had to change his signature. I have had to twice in my life. It feels like for each time I'm changing who I am. Where once I was my mother's daughter, then I became my father's outspoken daughter and now I am a wife (and soon to be mother). When I complete my degree I will receive it as a married woman. Not single. These are all things that have been hitting me as of late.

I have friends who did it in transitional phases- such as hyphened their name for a few months then moved into their new surname. I don't know if that is really what I want. I want to be known as my husband's wife, the mother of our children & I don't want any confusion on any of it.

How did you transition into your new role? Or did you just keep your maiden name? If you are not yet married what are your plans for when you get married?

I have to run- but until next time you keep your family safe, nourished & protected!

~Mommy Dearest~